When Mothers Have Breast Cancer
It just isn’t fair.
Because mothers really, really get it all done, don’t they? They manage the household (the bills, the utilities, the repairs). They cook and they clean and they shop and they launder. They care for the children (the bumps and the bruises, the dentist and doctor appointments, the school/camp/sports registrations). They take care of the animals and the neighbors (you know they’re bringing meals to others in need).
And of course, many mothers also volunteer or work for pay at home or outside the home. They plan quality time with the children and their spouses, they plan the family vacations, they plan the holiday celebrations.
Mothers get it all done.
I know, there are some fathers reading this that are going to say, ‘but I do my share!’ — and I believe that they do what they think is the equivalent — but I’m telling ya’ll, mothers do more.
So when a breast cancer diagnosis steps in the way of all that stuff — it just isn’t fair.
Truth be told, even with the best caregivers in the world, things will not be the same in your home until you are back on your feet (literally and figuratively).
And though that might seem dismal … I can say this: as a mother, a mother who has had breast cancer twice, I understand how much you do and how horrible it feels to not be able to do it all. And I’m sure others here do, too.
But please know that things will be okay when you have to shift your focus to yourself. And one day, you’ll be back, doing all that other stuff again.
Yeah, nobody appreciates what a mother does like another mother. Let’s hear it for us moms!
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1 opinion for When Mothers Have Breast Cancer
Sarah S.
May 10, 2008 at 7:11 pm
Good post! I hear ya. It is hard not to do everything I need to do. I am looking forward when that day comes:)
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